Joyful Eating

I’ve always been someone who puts weight on around my middle.

When I was younger I automatically assumed that I would be a victim of the classic middle aged spread.

Luckily that isn’t what happened.

One of the surprising side benefits of learning to listen to my body is that my waistline stopped being the problem it used to be.

I actually have a (mostly) flat stomach even thought I’m a 53 1/2 year old food lover.

And I want that for you too.

Over the last three years portion sizes had crept up for one of my clients.

When she thought about eating less, it felt like punishment.

Like going back to those smaller meals from when she was thinner was some kind of deprivation.

It’s a common feeling, and it’s also not the full picture.

So today I’m sharing my not-so-secret habit that helps you actually eat less without it feeling like punishment or missing out on anything.

For years, I avoided weighing myself. 

I thought it would make me obsess more. So I didn’t do it. 

But here’s the irony: I was obsessing constantly anyway. 

Every time my clothes felt tight, every time someone I hadn’t seen in a while asked if I was still running, my brain would spiral. Do they think I’ve gained weight? Have I?

Then I read my friend Darya Rose’s book Foodist, where she recommends experimenting with weighing yourself every single day — without shame or pride — as a way to actually stop the obsession. 

I decided to give it a go. It changed everything.

Not only did I know exactly where I stood (no more guessing), but I also discovered that after a big eating day, the damage was almost always much smaller than my brain had convinced me it was. 

And the most beautiful unexpected bonus? 

Doing this daily helped me separate my self-worth from the number on the scale. I no longer see myself as a better person when the number is lower, or a worse person when it’s higher.

One of my clients was doing brilliantly.

Making real progress on the scale.

Feeling great about her relationship with food.

And then she checked in with me and said something I hear a lot: “It was working, but now it’s kind of losing its magic. Help.”

Sound familiar?

This is so common it’s practically universal.

But luckily I know exactly how to get back on track with your habits.

Here’s how.

Your Invitation

If you’ve been going around in circles with food and weight — trying things, getting somewhere, then ending up back at square one — it’s not your fault

You’ve been using strategies that don’t work for the long term.

I can help you find a strategy that works.

I’m offering a limited number of one-on-one clarity calls where we get on Zoom, just the two of us and map out a simple, personalised plan to get you to your ideal place with food and your body.

If you’ want to stop searching and start knowing exactly what to do, click here for all the details.

One of my clients recently hit a fun milestone: she went below her goal weight.

When that happens, I always unpack exactly how she got there — because understanding what worked is just as important as the result itself.

What she didn’t do:

• cut out sugar,
• go on a shake fast,
• or willpower her way through cravings.
• What she did do: have a really good cookie most nights.

Your Invitation

If you’ve been going around in circles with food and weight — trying things, getting somewhere, then ending up back at square one — it’s not your fault.

You’ve been using strategies that don’t work for the long term.

I can help you find a strategy that works.

I’m offering a limited number of one-on-one clarity calls where we get on Zoom, just the two of us and map out a simple, personalised plan to get you to your ideal place with food and your body.

If you’ want to stop searching and start knowing exactly what to do, click here for all the details.

A Princeton professor lost 80 pounds in eight months by doing this one thing.

That literally takes 5 seconds a few times a day…

Your Invitation

If you’ve been going around in circles with food and weight — trying things, getting somewhere, then ending up back at square one — I want you to know: it’s not a you problem. It’s a clarity problem and a strategy problem.

I can fix that in 45 minutes.

I’m offering a limited number of one-on-one clarity calls where we get on Zoom, just the two of us, and figure out exactly where you want to get to, what’s actually keeping you stuck, and map out a simple, personalised plan to get you there — with ease and joy, and without any restriction or willpower.

Right now it’s available at an introductory price of $199 for the session (almost half the full price — but that won’t last).

If you’ want to stop searching and start knowing exactly what to do, click the link below. I’d love to meet you on Zoom.
https://lp.thestonesoup.com/clarity/

 

I was raised in a family where you had to finish your plate.

Children were starving in Africa, and that meant I had to eat all my peas.

Fast-forward 40-odd years, and I was still automatically cleaning my plate every single meal. It wasn’t a conscious decision — it was just what you did.

Then, when I started working with a coach and learning how to listen to my body, one of the first things we did was practice leaving food on the plate.

And when I started doing that? All my struggles with food just melted away. Like, seriously.

Because previously, if I’d overeaten or snacked too much while cooking, I would still finish my plate at dinner. Which meant I ate way more than I needed — and that just kept the cycle going. When I gave myself permission to leave food behind, everything changed.

Your Invitation

If you’ve been going around in circles with food and weight — trying things, getting somewhere, then ending up back at square one — I want you to know: it’s not a you problem. It’s a clarity problem and a strategy problem.

I can fix that in 45 minutes.

I’m offering a limited number of one-on-one clarity calls where we get on Zoom, just the two of us, and figure out exactly where you want to get to, what’s actually keeping you stuck, and map out a simple, personalised plan to get you there — with ease and joy, and without any restriction or willpower.

Right now it’s available at an introductory price of $199 for the session (almost half the full price — but that won’t last).

If you’ want to stop searching and start knowing exactly what to do, use the link here. I’d love to meet you on Zoom.

Back in December, I found myself wondering what it would feel like to lose a little weight.

I’d been sitting at the same weight for a while, and I was curious.

Not in a punishing, “I need to fix myself” way — more like a genuine experiment. Could I actually lose weight in December, of all months?

So I decided to try.

My goal was small and specific: lose one kilo (about two pounds). And by the end of the month, I’d done it.

Here’s exactly how.

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I used to believe the old dieting advice: you shouldn’t eat between meals.

But recently I was coaching two different people and suggested they plan in an afternoon snack.

For both of them, it made a huge difference to how much they were eating across the whole day — with a knock-on effect on weight.

It also reminded me of my own shift from thinking I shouldn’t snack, to actually giving myself permission to plan one in.

Intentional snacking was a game-changer for stopping my own overeating in the evenings.

Want simple more actionable strategies

Subscribe to my weekly newsletter Joyful Eating for Midlife Vitality.

I celebrated my half birthday last week — 53 and a half, (highly recommend celebrating half birthdays by the way).

I spent the day baking.

A spiced apple cake with brown butter frosting.

Cookies for school lunches.

The works.

And here’s the thing that still blows my mind: I did all of that baking, with all that raw dough and frosting within arm’s reach, and I didn’t end up feeling sick or out of control.

I had exactly what I intended to have.

I followed through on my plan.

Baking should be one of life’s simple joys. But for so many of us, it’s fraught.

This tiny habit changes that.